| Tip #1: Ask friendly questions. Having a hard time making conversation?
Before you go on the date, first review the other
person's profile and then think of a few questions to
ask. These will help you get to know the other person better.
"Ask, don't babble."
Tip #2:
What to Wear? So you've read GQ or Cosmo, still having a
hard time figuring out what "look" you should have? Ladies,
definitely dress conservative for the first date - you want
him talking to you, not ogling your goodies. And guys, clean
and simple does it - no fancy threads are needed for the first
date. No tshirts, no silk - a polo shirt works
great.
Tip #3:
Be Upbeat. Be upbeat, smile, give the other person
reassurance that you're fun to be around. And sincere. Many
people complain or talk about their past. Be in the present -
be pleasant. Be yourself - don't try to be what you think they
want.
Tip #4:
Late to the
party? Being late shows
disrespect and is a sure turn off. Make a good first
impression by being on time. Give yourself an extra 15 minutes
lead time.
Tip #5:
Don't wear any cologne or
perfume. Nowadays, these are a
turnoff to most. Deodarant alone is fine. Try it.
Tip #6:
Confidence is
Sexy. How do You show
confidence? Make sure to keep eye contact and a pleasant,
relaxed conversation. Being sure of yourself is attractive -
and your date will notice it!
Tip
#7: Avoid Current
Events. Avoid politics,
religion, and world events like war. Your goal is to learn
about the other person's values. Bringing up potential topics
of disagreement is a sure way to not get a second date. Stay
in neutral territory at first
Tip #8:
Read their Body
Language and React. Are they
studying the tabletop more than you, twenty minutes into the
date? Or, are they leaning forward, making more eye contact?
Learn to judge when you're "blowing it" versus when you're
making a good impression. React to the signals that are being
sent to you.
Tip
#9: Parting Shots. Ok the date's over, the check's been
paid. If you want to see them again, tell them so, in a casual
way - "I had a good time, thanks - hey let me know if you want
to get together again." This opens up the possibility of a
next date, without asking for a commitment or getting an
awkward silence.
Ready for that date now? Try out these 9
Tips and let us know how it went! Want to have lots of first
dates to practice with? Be sure to try our two-way match
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